Just one of those days

Today was just another Monday.  Nothing out of the ordinary really, but one that got to me.  I had a Doctor appointment scheduled for myself.  It is an appointment that I should go to every year, but haven’t been in 5 years.  When the Doctor came in she had a note in her file about Nathan.  She casually asked me how Nathan was doing?  She said “last we talked he had been diagnosed with Autism and had some issues with his eyes”.  It was a simple question and one that I have been asked numerous times.  Most days, I can rattle off the information with a straight face and just keep going.  Perhaps I was feeling slightly vulnerable  (all you ladies reading this should know what I am talking about:)  However, this time, I wasn’t able to just rattle the diagnosis off.  I wept in her office while wearing a lovely paper gown.  It was pretty pathetic, but I just kept crying.  It was like I went back in time a year and a half ago and it was raw and new.  She was kind and listened and hugged me ( a little awkward-again, the paper gown thing) but I appreciated that.  Sometimes, I just need someone to listen.  I don’t need someone to fix it, they can’t, I don’t need a problem solver, because you can’t solve this problem.  I just needed an ear today and she gave it.  Afterwards, I had to go to work with my swollen eyes and pretend that my eyes are just watery and have been bugging me lately.  I would have loved to have gone home and curled up in bed and just been quiet all day, but that wasn’t in the cards for today.  So I had a little time to feel sorry for myself, catch my breath and go about my day.

A couple of weeks ago, Nathan had an experience at school that has left me pretty upset. His teacher called me near the end of the day and told me I needed to come and pick him up.  I asked her what was going on and she informed me that he was sitting on the floor and crying saying he could not walk and that he had forgotten how to walk.  He was trying to hit the staff (something he has never done before).  I asked her if she thought he really could not walk and she said that he had been playing basketball earlier and she just figured he was tired.  I let her know that I was on my way to pick him up.  Half way there she called back to let me know that security had been called and they were able to get him up on his feet and he was very apologetic.  They got him on the bus and when he got home he just kept saying the same thing that he forgot how to walk and that his legs were not working. I posed the question to the Batten community to see if anyone had any ideas.  I emailed his Pediatrician to see if she had any thoughts.  My first thought was maybe it was the hole in his ear that could be causing his balance problems.  We have been noticing that he is having a harder time getting around the house and seems unsure of where things are and grabs for things more than usual.  He also always wants to be holding on to someone at all times.  His Pediatrician came back and said that she did not believe the ear would be causing the problems I described and feared it was neurological and progression of the disease.  She recommended making an appointment with his Neurologist.  Another Mom from the Batten community suggested a walker.  The kind that has 4 wheels and a chair attached.  If we tighten the wheels and someone guides him, perhaps it would help him feel more balanced and if he was tired, he could sit and rest.  My Dad had this kind of walker so I asked my Mom if we could use it to try it.  She brought it to us and we will work with him around the house to see how he does.  I spoke with his teacher today and she thought it was a good idea.  She said that lately he has been saying he feels like he is going to fall when he is walking.   This just makes me sick to my stomach.  It is one more thing that is being taken from him.  Our house or car is not ready for him to be in a wheelchair, my HEART is not ready to have that happen.

I absolutely cannot put into words the depths that I would go to so that Nathan would not have to suffer anymore.  I would give my life in a split second if it meant saving him.  I am his Mother.  I am supposed to protect him from harm.  How can this be happening to him? What in the world are we supposed to do?  We sat in a Doctors office on June 10, 2015 and were told to go home and enjoy every minute with him.  To take him everywhere and make memories.  That is a very double edged sword.  We are doing everything we can to make memories with him, but it should not come along with a Doctor telling us our son is going to die.  I want my children to bury me, not the other way around.  It is during these moments that I am reminded of the following poem

Footprints in the Sand

One night I dreamed a dream.
As I was walking along the beach with my Lord.
Across the dark sky flashed scenes from my life.
For each scene, I noticed two sets of footprints in the sand,
One belonging to me and one to my Lord.

After the last scene of my life flashed before me,
I looked back at the footprints in the sand.
I noticed that at many times along the path of my life,
especially at the very lowest and saddest times,
there was only one set of footprints.

This really troubled me, so I asked the Lord about it.
“Lord, you said once I decided to follow you,
You’d walk with me all the way.
But I noticed that during the saddest and most troublesome times of my life,
there was only one set of footprints.
I don’t understand why, when I needed You the most, You would leave me.”

He whispered, “My precious child, I love you and will never leave you
Never, ever, during your trials and testings.
When you saw only one set of footprints,
It was then that I carried you.”

This is definitely one of those moments in my life that I feel like there are only one set of footprints, but not because they are mine, but because I KNOW that I am being carried through this.  We all are, Jay, Madison and Nathan too.  We cannot do this on our own, we have faith that God is with us and will never leave us.


Madison said to me the other day that she was sad because she realized that she had never had a normal conversation with Nathan.  She sees her friends with their siblings and gets upset that she does not have that type of relationship with Nathan.  They don’t play the games together that all her friends do.  She has never been on a bike ride with her brother.  There is nothing “normal” about her relationship with Nathan.  But what she does have with him is so incredibly special.  He looks up to her and loves her so much and she looks up to him.  She is so amazed at what is able to do and what he goes through on a daily basis.  She has the most unbelievable heart of any person her age I know.  I am so grateful for her.

This is just one day that had me down.  Tomorrow will be better, it has to be.  I go to bed each night and pray that I can just get through tomorrow, and then do it all over again.

We do wish everyone a very Happy Thanksgiving.  Through all of this, we are very aware that we do have so much to be thankful for.  May you be able to see all the blessings in your life. Below is a song that has really been speaking to me lately.  I hope you enjoy it.


10 thoughts on “Just one of those days

  1. CAROL OAKLEY ALLEN November 21, 2016 — 9:49 PM

    I’ve always loved that poem and carried it in my purse for years and read it many times to myself and to others…..Thank you for sharing and letting us share your burden in whatever miniscule way we can. Thinking of you and your family….sending love, hugs and prayers your way.

    1. Thank you Carol. I have always loved it to, it just takes on more meaning now.

      1. CAROL OAKLEY ALLEN November 22, 2016 — 10:07 AM

        Didn’t see the song at first when I read your blog – what a powerful song – I stop whatever I am doing when I hear it. I love love love Danny Gokey, his music and his story really speak to me! From all I know of him he is a wonderful human being. I got to see him when he did The Bible Tour in Jacksonville a while back. My daughter and I had a mother-daughter camp out weekend where we talked about “the birds and the bees” using Dennis and Barbara Rainey’s program, Passport 2 Purity, it was a most wonderful memorable spirtually charged weekend we will never forget. I’m so proud of my daughter and I know you are proud of yours as well – she sounds like a wonderful young lady – a wonderful daughter is a blessing indeed! It is so sweet and special the way she loves Nathan!! When we hear about all the selfish, self-centered people with hate in their heart and destruction on their mind that are in our face everyday on the news, etc. it is nice to know there are wonderful God fearing people standing strong in the midst of it all – continuing to believe and act on our belief and fighting the good fight! Wish there was anything I could do to bring you comfort – I can pray for you – and I will

  2. Beautiful song. Thank you for sharing it and thank you for sharing your heart and soul with us. I cannot even begin to imagine what you are feeling or going through. May God be with you and your entire family every step of the way. Blessings to you and yours and I hope you all have a Happy Thanksgiving.

  3. ♡♡♡♡
    Lifting you ALL up in prayer… Prayers for strength during this difficult time and prayers for others so we know how and when to be there for you all without you needing to send hints. I can’t find the song…..

    1. Thank you. It is Tell your heart to beat again by Danny Gokey

  4. Oh……. I found it…… ♡♡♡ you…

  5. Yes, this song has such a great message. I myself have been listening to mostly Christian music these days. My soul needs filled with His love and I welcome feeling the Holy Spirit move in me. Let the Spirit move in you…comfort you, hold you, love you. Feel the love of the Lord…..deeply and just keep calling to Him for strength and grace. I am sorry for your struggle and always have an ear for you. Please let me know when you just need a sounding block! Happy Thanksgiving to you all! With Love, Dawn

    1. Thank you Dawn. Hope you have a wonderful Florida Thanksgiving!

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