The not forgotten child

I know I fill this space up with constant information about our son,  and rarely do I mention our beautiful daughter Madison.  Not because she doesn’t deserve every single word on the page, but she is more reserved and private about her life.  I try very hard to respect her boundaries.   I don’t want to speak about her if she is not comfortable.   In this day and age, she is much more technologically savvy than I am, and you never know when she might pop in and take a look.

With all that said, I have to take the time to write about her tonight. She is such an amazing young lady who suprises me daily with her grace, beauty, wit, charm, intelligence,  heart of gold…. I could go on and on about all of her qualities,  but any parent knows what I am talking about.

I had the pleasure of going to her parent/teacher conference tonight.   All of her teachers commented on what a wonderful student she is and a joy to have in class.  She participates and is a leader.  She helps her peers out and has really stood out to them as a great student.  I am beyond pleased to report that she is a straight A student! 

This year has definitely brought new challenges.   A new school, riding the bus, getting up extra early and meeting a whole new set of friends.  I would be lying if I said I didn’t worry.  It just seems so much harder on kids these days at a much younger age.  Who knows,  maybe it has always been this hard, but now I am the parent so of course it seems harder ;).

Times are different,  they have access to so much and we worry.  We have our nice little arguments over her phone and what is and is not allowed. Sometimes it is really hard to explain that just because other kids have things doesn’t entitle you to have it too.  We have very different rules than some of her friends and that has been hard to get across to her.  But overall,  we are very blessed to have a sweet daughter.

She has had a little hard time adjusting to not being in the same school as Nathan.  She worries about him so much. She knew she could always look out for him when they were at the same school and she has been a little unsettled at the idea of him being without her.  She loves her brother so much and he idolozes her.  They have always been very close and we hope that relationship will always continue to grow. 

Big stuff coming up as always.  We go on October 7th for his latest DNA testing results.  This is the one time I am praying that they don’t find anything.  It is such a double edged sword.  What they are looking for this time would be devastating, so we of course pray very hard that this is not it.  However, if they don’t find anything,  it just means another round that will take 4-6 more months of waiting. 

For all of those who have commented to me about what is “wrong” with Nathan, let me be very clear.  Nothing is “wrong” with Nathan.  We as parents are merely trying to figure out what is “causing” all these issues with him.  He is a wonderfully,  beautifully made child.  God did not make a mistake, he made my son.   I just want to know all I can to help him have the best life possible.  Wouldn’t any parent want that for their child?

After our appointment,  we will be leaving for our annual cruise. We are in desperate need of some R&R.   We have had our fair share of junk this year and need a break.  My parents have the wonderful job of house/dog sitting for us, but it helps to know that all is well here. 

Thank you to those who have reached out to me to see how we are doing.  I feel very disconnected from the world and the calls, texts and emails are very nice to get.

Thank you to all who read this and for loving my family.



1 thought on “The not forgotten child

  1. Thank you as always for such an uplifting message. You cause most of us to wonder if we could face such challenges in our own family with as much grace as you show. I know Madison is a treasure to you and Jay but especially to Nathan. She has that heart that is open and loving that will always give Nathan a safe haven. You and Jay have shown her and taught her that so know that you have done an excellent job. We think of you often and pray for you daily. Praying for good news from the next round of tests.

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